I still have teenagers at home so talking about what will make one successful is a daily conversation. Even though the generational names change i.e., Baby Boomers, Gen X and Millennials, the basic tenents of success haven’t changed. The same things that made people successful in the past still make people successful today.
- In dress. Your appearance is the first data point from which people make an assessment of you. Whether consciously or subconsciously, people will make a determination of whether you’re worth their investment of time based on your appearance. Look like you put a little care into getting yourself together for the day. It shows respect for your audience, and they in turn will show you the same respect. This idea holds true even in casual situations. I always get better service when shopping in my favorite shoe store when I’m dressed well.
- In speech. You word choice accompanied with your body language communicate your message of who you are and why you’re worth the investment of time. Choose your words wisely. They have power. Get a handle on the verbal tics. In Charles Murray’s book, The Curmudgeon’ Guide to Getting Ahead in Life, he lists several verbal tics that you need to eliminate from your vocabulary. Verbal tics or trite phrases such as, “like,” “reach out,” “at the end of the day,” were listed as big ones to eliminate. I will add that I am personally annoyed by a new one I’ve heard a million times already, “right?”. Just stop and listen to yourself, or better yet, have someone else listen to you and give you feedback. Those types of words and phrases make you less persuasive and sound less intelligent.
- In thought. When you get up in the morning, prepare for your day. Get yourself together mentally and spiritually as well as physically. Visualize the challenges that may come your way and formulate a response in advance. Always think thoughts that you want to happen, so be positive. You thoughts lead to actions. Actions lead to your future. Choose wisely.
It’s pretty simple. Save. Save early. Save a lot. Done. If you don’t believe me, seek out a financial advisor and they will tell you the same thing. The difference is that they have cool charts and graphs to support their advice.
Always take care of your health. It’s a treasure and you don’t want to stumble upon that reality after you become sick because you ignored it. Eliminate stress. Exercise. Eat smart. It’s the best way to stay young in body and mind. The additional side benefit is that you will feel great. Start today. It’s not as hard as you think and you may eventually like it.
Never skimp investing in the most important people and relationships in your life – ever. Relationships take time, and it’s time well spent. Be fully present with the people you are with. It’s the only way to go deeper and build relationships that last a lifetime.
You don’t have as much time as you think you do when you’re young. And when you get older, you will wonder where the time went. Use your time well, every minute of every day. Spend time doing the things that will give you the future you want to have. Then at the end of it all you can nod your head in satisfaction and say, “Well done.”
“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” ~ Vince Lombardi. If you want to be successful and have a great life, make the commitment. Commit to excellence in everything you do. It doesn’t mean being perfect, it does mean giving it everything you’ve got because that is what it will take.
Just be nice
You can’t go wrong with this one. You don’t have to be a doormat, but you don’t have to be mean either. You never know what someone else is going through or the impact you can have by just extending some kindness. My heart is full when someone extends an undeserved kindness towards me. It has a ripple effect as I in turn, extend a kindness to others around me. I’m forever grateful and amazed by kindness. It’s powerful.
Everyone wants to be successful. Success is defined in different ways for different people. The bottom line is living life fully, living well and helping others along the way. No regrets. That is success.
Kaylene Mathews is a Personal Leadership Consultant, Author and Speaker. She has worked with company giants such as Frito-Lay, Dean Foods, Tenet Healthcare and PepsiCo as well as small family owned businesses and individuals. She is currently working on her second book, Challenged to Greatness: 12 challenges to Skyrocket Your Personal Leadership. To learn more visit: KayleneMathews.com.